“Why We Should Look to Proverbs, Not Media, for Relationship Wisdom”
In today’s digital age, relationship advice is everywhere. From podcasts to blogs, social media influencers to talk shows, it’s nearly impossible to scroll through any media platform without stumbling across some form of guidance on love, dating, and marriage. While some of this advice can be helpful, it’s important to recognize that much of it is rooted in trends, surface-level perspectives, and, quite frankly, sensationalism.
Since I, personally, started reading the Bible more, I’ve noticed how everything a person has been through has happened before…(We’ve all experience the same things.)
This is not to say all relationship advice found online is toxic, but we live in a time when many outlets focus on controversy and drama. They often offer advice that reflects the moment’s mood, not necessarily long-standing wisdom. The problem with following such advice is that it can lead to a constant state of confusion and frustration, pulling us in conflicting directions.
The Disconnect with Media’s Relationship Advice
One of the biggest issues with mainstream relationship advice is how anti-traditional it has become. Many podcasts and media outlets promote a level of individualism and detachment that can be detrimental to forming deep, meaningful relationships. The emphasis is often on self-preservation, avoiding vulnerability, and treating relationships like games to be won, rather than mutual partnerships to. It’s no wonder so many people feel lost when navigating the modern dating world.
Furthermore, much of this advice is generalized to appeal to a wide audience, but every relationship is unique. What works for one couple might be disastrous for another. Yet, we find ourselves trying to apply these one-size-fits-all rules to something as complex as love and commitment. The result? More confusion, emotional burnout, and sometimes, toxic cycles of behavior.
The Timeless Wisdom of Proverbs
If you’re looking for more grounded, timeless advice, turning to the Bible’s Proverbs is a much better alternative. Whether you’re religious or not, the wisdom found in the book of Proverbs can provide insightful perspectives that resonate with human nature and relationships.
For instance, Proverbs teaches us about patience, kindness, and wisdom — all of which are essential in any relationship. Rather than promoting “winning” or “outsmarting” your partner, Proverbs emphasizes the importance of understanding, humility, and mutual respect. These qualities create a foundation for long-lasting, healthy relationships, not the fleeting, anxiety-inducing advice often found in popular media.
Consider Proverbs 18:21, which says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” This teaches us about the power of our words, how what we say can either build or destroy our relationships. Now compare that to modern dating advice, where “ghosting” and emotional unavailability are often presented as viable options. Proverbs encourages us to communicate honestly and openly — advice that is crucial for maintaining trust and connection.
Proverbs 12:16 says, “Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult.” This speaks to emotional maturity, reminding us not to react impulsively or let minor grievances ruin meaningful relationships. In contrast, media platforms sometimes encourage people to react out of ego, hold grudges, or walk away at the first sign of trouble.
Not About Religion, But Practical Wisdom
Again, This isn’t about forcing religious beliefs onto anyone, but rather inviting people to explore ancient wisdom that can serve as a healthy counterbalance to today’s fast-paced, often superficial dating culture. Proverbs encourages us to focus on internal qualities — our character, our patience, our ability to communicate with grace and wisdom — rather than external markers of success in relationships.
By reading the book of Proverbs, (31 chapters) you can deepen your emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and avoid getting swept up in toxic, fleeting trends. Instead of chasing advice that might not resonate with your values or long-term goals, you’ll be better equipped to navigate relationships with a solid moral compass.
In a world that increasingly values attention over substance, and controversy over compassion, it’s more important than ever to ground ourselves in timeless principles. Proverbs offers exactly that: a roadmap for navigating relationships with integrity, wisdom, and kindness. Instead of being pulled in by the noise of media advice, try stepping away and reflecting on this ancient wisdom. You may find the answers you’re seeking have been there all along.
In the end, relationships aren’t about following trends — they’re about building something real and meaningful. And for that, there’s no better place to start than the timeless wisdom found in Proverbs.
Thanks for reading! :)
